- Reduces the pain of failure
- Protects our EGO
- To get sympathy from our teammates.
It is one thing to make excuses in your head it’s even worse when you express these excuses to your teammates. Your teammate may agree with you and make you feel better about yourself but you are also losing credibility with them and they won’t trust you in tough spots because they know you have already made an excuse mentally to bail yourself out of any potential failures.
There is a distinct difference between taking responsibility and blaming yourself. An example of self blame is saying "we lost and it is all my fault." That is never true this is a team game. In that same situation the correct thought process is, "I didn’t stay focused in the present and execute my pitches, I let the negative results effect my confidence level and I didn’t continue to focus on the next pitch. I will be better my next outing to give my team a better chance to win." Recognize the facts, learn from them and apply what you have learned in the future.
You should never feel responsible for the performance of the entire team. Many great pitchers think, “I need to put the team on my back and dominate today." This puts artificial pressure on you that you shouldn’t have to deal with. Remember: "control what you can control." You could pitch a great game and execute your game plan and still lose. Maybe you made some great pitches and the hitters just found holes, that is part of the game. The result on the scoreboard should have little impact on your self-evaluation of your performance. The next time out, you may not be sharp and guys just hit rockets right at people and your defense plays great behind you and your team wins. Does that mean you should feel better about that performance then you did the previous outing when your team lost? No! Most pitchers judge themselves on there W-L record. This is very similar to a hitter judging his performance based on his batting average. If you do this you will constantly ride a roller coaster of emotions purely based on RESULTS. Eliminate this thought process. Focus on making quality pitches and staying even keel with your confidence level. You are never as good or bad as one individual outing.
Pitchers use their coaches as a crutch. Your pitching coach may suggest you do certain things mechanically. They are trying to help you become a better pitcher. However, pitchers think I HAVE to do it this way now that my coach told me to. They say, “Coach wants me to have a longer stride so I am going to try it but if it doesn’t work in the game its not my fault, the coach MADE me do it.” When you say I HAVE to you are taking away responsibility from yourself. In the end your mechanics are your choice, you are the one who has to go out on the bump and pitch not your coach. You have to take ownership of your own delivery. In college most pitching coaches call pitches. I tend to disagree with this because of the same reason I just stated. Pitching coaches call pitches because they believe they have a better understanding of the opponent. This is usually true but then the pitchers say, “well coach called a curve ball here so I’ll throw it but if it gets ripped its not my fault, the coach is the one who called the pitch not me. You have to be 100% dedicated to every pitch you throw off the mound so if you don’t agree with the pitch selection SHAKE THE COACH OFF!! I would rather you be confident and committed to the wrong pitch then throw what the coach has called for. As coaches we try to put you in the best position to succeed but in the end a coach will never throw a pitch off the mound. Your performance is your responsibility!!
Do not justify your performance in terms of luck, fate and the breaks you get in a game. Even when things are going great these pitchers say, “well everything just went my way, I got lucky, I caught all the right breaks.” Subconsciously this type of pitcher is not taking credit for his success because he wants to eliminate the burden of taking the blame in failure. I want you to sit down and make a list of things that are realistically in your control as a pitcher. Something like this:
- Work on my pitches and control during my flat ground work everyday
- Do my bullpens at game intensity.
- Control me emotions and confidence level during the game, pitch in the present the whole game, one pitch at a time.
- Be aggressive and attack the hitters with strikes
- Know the scouting report on my opponents
- Never show negative emotion on the mound
- Take care of my conditioning between outings so my body recovers properly
- When I am not pitching watch the game closely to see if I can pick up on my opponents weaknesses.
you can not put in this list:
- Win 10 Games
- ERA under 3
- opponents batting average under 250
In Summary:
-It is what you say to yourself and what you visualize in your mind that count, do not make excuses to justify your performance.
-Never say I HAVE to, say I have decided to, I want to.
-Always ask yourself what can I learn from this situation?
-Recognize when you make excuses for yourself and eliminate making excuses to your teammates.
-Define what is realistically in your control and what is not.
-Judge yourself honestly based on execution, IGNORE YOUR STATS!
You ALWAYS have a choice, if you do not take responsibility you have still made a choice…. The WRONG ONE!!